Obsessed? Bewildered? Ask Dr. Mahinder Watsa AUG. 9, 2014
For nine years, Mahinder Watsa, 90, has been shocking Indian sensibilities with his Ask the Sexpert column for The Mumbai Mirror. Tens of thousands of people have sought advice on a variety of issues, including the size and shape of penises, fears of masturbation and hymen reconstruction. Following are selections from his correspondence published in The Mumbai Mirror and a site created by his fans.
Q. I am 16 and a half years old, and my penis is 4.3 inches long, 1.5 inch thick (when erect). When not, it shrinks to 1 inch in thickness. I have not grown a beard yet or developed muscles. I have experienced weight loss recently too. Am I developing signs of puberty? Why is my penis short?
A. Stop sounding like a tailor. Leave your genitals alone and focus on daily exercise and a healthy diet. The genitals will look after themselves. You are already in your puberty years.
Q. My friend saw me while bathing. According to him, the size of my penis is not more than that of a cashew nut. What should I do to increase the size?
A. It’s normal for the penis to appear small at rest. The size matters at erection. Take a foot rule and measure from the pubic bone to the tip of your organ. If it’s longer than two and half inches, it is adequate to satisfy a partner.
Q. I am 18 years old and my testicles are larger than those I see in films. Should I be wearing a supporter all day long?
A. Do you watch movies with a ruler in one hand? Then why not measure ears and other parts of the body as well. If you have any doubt, see your doctor.
Q. What First Aid will we require after having sex for the first time? My fiancée and I have had oral sex many times. How safe is that?
A. You need not join the Red Cross; just visit a sexpert for some pre-marriage counseling. Oral sex is safe and healthy, and she will not conceive through it.
Q. I am a 22-year-old man. When I was 19, I suffered from jock itch, which was cured. However, since then, the region around my penis and inner thighs has remained dark. Now, my girlfriend and I want to have sex for the first time, but I am embarrassed to get naked in front of her. I have a fair complexion, but my groin region looks ugly. What should I do?
A. You need to make sure that your girlfriend is not looking at your crotch, but is tenderly looking into your eyes and is excited about your touch and sweet talk.
Q. After having sex four times a day, I feel weak the next day. For about five minutes, my vision goes blank and I can’t see anything properly. Please help.
A. What do you expect? Shouts of hurray and I am a champion all over town?
Q. I feel a strong urge to have sex with a hot woman. But I don’t have a girlfriend and I don’t like to masturbate. What should I do?
A. Cool down and masturbate your fantasies away. That is the only outlet you have. If you don’t like it, you must figure how to find a girlfriend.
Q. I am 25 and masturbate on the pillow. Unfortunately, the other day our domestic help saw me. Now, when she comes to clean the house she like to have a good sniff of this pillow. Should I have sex with her?
A. Sniffing the pillow does not mean she wants to have sex with you. Maybe she is checking whether it needs a wash. The decision is yours.
Q. My family is demanding that I get married. How can I ascertain if the girl is a virgin?
A. I suggest you don’t get married. Unless you appoint detectives, there is no way to find out. Spare any poor girl of your suspicious mind.
Q. I am 23 years old and unmarried. I had sex with a man, who now refuses to marry me. If I marry somebody else, will he find out that I am not a virgin? How can I hide the fact that I am not one?
A. It would be difficult to hide if your husband is the suspicious sort. At times, women in your situation visit a gynecologist for hymen repair. Also, were you masturbating before you had sex? If yes, then your hymen would have split even before you had intercourse.
Q. Can having unprotected anal sex make my girlfriend pregnant? What are the dangers of unprotected anal sex? Also, I was wondering whether there is any possibility of a guy getting pregnant if he has anal sex with another man?
A. Unprotected anal sex can cause serious infections and damage the anal passage. Mr. Ignoramus, for the rest of your query, visit Google and educate yourself on the basics.
Q. If a man and a woman masturbate at the same time, thinking about sex, can it lead to pregnancy?
A. There are no angels to carry your sperms to the person you are dreaming about. Fantasy gives you enjoyment, but does nothing more.