By April Daniels Hussar Mar 28 2012
Feeling a little extra frisky? Is your sexy coworker suddenly appearing half-dressed in your lunchtime daydream? You probably have your ovaries to thank for this burst of racy thoughts.sex-fantasy-self.jpg
According to a new study, reported in the journal Archives of Sexual Behavior this month, your sexual fantasies increase and lead to more arousal during the most fertile periods of your menstrual cycle. The researchers also found that there’s a higher proportion of men in women’s fantasies during those fertile times of the month. Hubba hubba.
“When it mattered most, women were fantasizing more about men,” said study author Samantha Dawson, a graduate researcher at the University of Lethbridge in Alberta, Canada.
Dawson and her fellow researchers had 27 single, heterosexual women not using hormonal contraceptives answer questions about their sexual fantasies and behavior on a web-based diary every day for 30 days. The women reported having about 0.77 sexual fantasies a day, which in itself is surprising, because conventional wisdom says men fantasize daily; women weekly. That 0.77 number jumped up to an average of 1.3 fantasies per day in the days around ovulation — and the women said their fantasies were even more arousing than usual.
Amy Levine, sex coach and the founder of IgniteYourPleasure.com, says, “It makes sense that fantasies could increase around ovulation; after all, biologically our goal is to procreate at this time of the month.” However, she adds: “I hope women fantasize more than once a week!”
So what exactly constitutes a sex fantasy? Do you have to be awake to have one, or do dreams count? “Typically, when we think about a fantasy, we’re referring to some combination of thoughts, feelings, sensations and/or emotions that turn us on,” says Levine. “It may be that it gives you a quick jolt of arousal or causes you to yearn for a sexual experience or interaction.
“Fantasies are a great way to kick-start your sex life, or elevate the hot sex you’re already having,” Levine continues — no matter what time of the month it is. “When you have sex alone or with someone else, the physical and intimate experience takes you down one path; however, when you add various elements that can potentially increase pleasure, it can create more opportunities for your sexual journey to escalate.”
Need some help with your fantasy life? “When it comes to fantasy, remembering a sexy element of your hottest sexual experience or using your imagination to create one in your mind — whether it’s a snapshot or something more elaborate — can definitely improve your sex life,” says Levine. “If the image is of a person other than your partner, don’t fret. It’s not something you need to share.”
Fantasizing is very similar to creativity, says Levine. “If you don’t have inspiration in your life, then it can be a challenge to get your juices flowing, so to speak,” she says. Sources for fantasies may include reading erotic novels, seeing movies, watching TV shows, listening to music, shopping for fun in a store that provides a sensory experience (music, colors, fabrics, etc.), enjoying the outdoors and more.
“Ultimately, use the world around you to stimulate your senses and help you create amazing fantasies,” says Levine. “Who knows, you may want to make elements of them real.”