The college where date rape is colour coded – now with added Richard Dawkins

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Fraternity Dosed Women With Date-Rape Drugs Based on Color-Coded Hand Stamps, Say Cops – Police say that the Tau Kappa Epsilon is under investigation after four people were dosed with “date rape” drugs and hospitalized. By David Ferguson September 19, 2014

The University of Wisconsin at Milwaukee’s chapter of the fraternity Tau Kappa Epsilon (TKE) is under investigation after four people were dosed with a so-called “date rape” drug.

According to the Milwaukee Journal-Sentinel, police raided the fraternity house on Tuesday. In the wake of a raucous Friday night party at the house, three women and one man were hospitalized with symptoms of extreme intoxication and disorientation.

One student has been arrested in connection with the alleged druggings, which were administered on the basis of color-coded hand stamps. All of the women who were drugged had red X’s on the backs of their hands, which were given to them by the party’s doorman.

Police were called three times on Friday night to Sandburg Residence Hall between midnight and 1:33 a.m.. Each time, they found female students unable to stand or walk, all of whom had red Xs on their hands from the same TKE party.The one male student who was taken to the hospital had drunk from a drink given to one of the women with a red X.

The Journal-Sentinel reported that the police incident reports from Friday night said that emergency personnel were attempting to come to the aid of a second woman at Sandburg who could not walk or speak clearly when they spied a male student vomiting into a garbage can and struggling to stand.

The student told officers that he had also been drinking at the TKE party and had consumed part of a female friend’s drink.

At around 1:20 a.m., police arrived at the fraternity house, where they found a large group of students drinking in the basement, all underage. Several “large piles of vomit” and a copious number of empty alcohol containers dotted the lawn and covered the interior floors of the building.

Around this time, the residence hall called police again reporting that a female student was showing signs of having been drugged. Her hand bore a red X, as well.

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The UW at Milwaukee TKE chapter was investigated three times in 2013 for sexual assaults, but no charges were ever filed. Facebook postings reportedly discussed the members’ tendency to “roofie” women before Friday night’s party.

A “roofie” is a powerful dose of narcotics slipped into someone’s drink designed to render them unconscious. Originally the word referred to the hypnotic sedative drug Rohypnol, which produces unconsciousness, blackouts and paralysis when mixed with alcohol.

Now a “roofie” can be any chemical compound that renders the victim unconscious and pliable, including substances like the nausea drug phenobarbital or the chemical Gamma hydroxybutyrate (GHB).

One of the women who was treated over the weekend reportedly rushed the bar at the party and poured out several drinks before she blacked out. She was ejected by fraternity members and said that she had a “weird feeling and sensation prior to blacking out.”

Other party-goers reported seeing vodka shots and other clear drinks that were mixed below the party’s bar and appeared cloudy.

One woman reported that female party-goers who the fraternity members found “hot” could spend $8 for an index card that gave them “all access to the house” and unlimited drinks from one of the party’s bars.The University has severed its ties with the TKE chapter until the investigation is complete. Because the fraternity house is considered a private residence, university rules and policies do not apply there.

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At the same time philosopher Richard Dawkins got himself (not for the first time) in hot water on Twitter. He was not commencing on this story.  He was pointing out that a prosecution for rape is going to be hard if the victim has no memory of it (and no other evidence) and said that if the prosecution is successful it could be a worrying precedent.  This seem to have been interpreted as saying that rape should not be treated seriously without evidenceScreen Shot 2014-09-19 at 13_29_16

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The Tweets provoked this moving letter to the New Statesman:

Dear Richard Dawkins,

I was raped. I was raped when I was drunk, passed out. I was raped when I was drunk, passed out, when I was 14 years old. I was raped when I was drunk, passed out, when I was 14 years old and a virgin.

This is a fact. I know you don’t believe me.

I was at a friend’s house. Several girls were staying over. My friend had invited her boyfriend and his friend to come over. It was one of the first times I’d ever drunk alcohol so didn’t understand that you shouldn’t drink it very, very quickly like the Coca-Cola with which it was mixed. I felt ill, I went to lie down in her bedroom. I passed out. After that there were just moments I remember.

Pain. Being dragged off the bed onto the floor. Being pulled by my hair. Held down. A friend walking in and seeing what was going on and running in to rescue me. He pushed her out and locked the door. I remember the screaming and banging on the door while he continued to rape me while I drifted in and out of consciousness.

To be honest, even though decades have passed, I don’t like to think about it much. Even now those vague memories still cause me enormous mental anguish.

I’ve never said these words aloud before. I’ve never spoken about the details before. I’ve never told a counsellor, I’ve never told a friend, I’ve never told my husband. I’ve told a few people in writing. But they can’t see me when I’m typing. I’m sobbing right now. Decades on and I’m sobbing.

By the time I’d got to school on the Monday, he’d told everyone that he’d “had sex” with me seven times. I’m fairly sure, he didn’t tell anyone “I pulled her off the bed by her hair” or “I held my hand over her mouth when she shouted out because of the pain of her breaking hymen”. But seven times? Is that possible? I ask you as a biologist because I can’t remember what happened. Could he have actually raped me seven times? That seems like a lot. I expect he was bragging.

It doesn’t really matter because it started “a meme” at my school about me. You know all about that. I was “Lucky 7”. People started giving me things with the number 7 on it – cards, stickers, old sweatshirts. People would stick a bit of paper on my back with the number 7 on it. Just kids being mean, but it hurt, that meme hurt me so much. It hurt because there were so many of them doing it. It went viral. It hurt because I just had to take it. It hurt because they all assumed that I had consented.

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I had not consented because I was not conscious enough to consent. Do you understand what that means?

Within a few weeks I had cut off all my hair to about an inch long. He had pulled me by the hair. I didn’t want hair anymore.

Within a year I had started making myself sick after eating. I was repulsed by my body, repulsed by being “a woman”. I wanted to be small, invisible, a child.

My friends that had been at the house that night remained silent, they didn’t join in on the bullying, but they didn’t defend me either. Eventually, they drifted away from me. Or rather I pushed them away.

For the next 10 years, I retreated further and further away from myself, too. I created a bright-yet-tough exterior to keep everyone away from what was going on inside me. No one knew about my bulimia. No one knew that I had been raped. Inside was a fog. I had covered up my memories of that night and the subsequent bullying at school. I tried to tell myself it didn’t matter. Move forward. It’s all fine. Stiff upper lip and all that.

Funnily enough, the mind doesn’t always work like that.

My bulimia had got so bad that I would spend entire days doing little other than eating and vomiting, eating and vomiting. I would take food into my body, force it into my body until it hurt and then endlessly, violently try and get it all out. Over and over again. Day after day after day I was metaphorically reliving that one night. I kept trying to get it all out.

When I was 24 I had an epiphany. It was simple, but profound: I liked myself. The “bright-yet-tough exterior” I had created to protect myself had grown into someone rather interesting. I liked her. I liked me. And, not believing in a soul, I knew that I am merely the result of my experiences both good and bad, even that horrendously bad experience that I still hadn’t ever talked about, even that.

Soon after that epiphany I was able to stop making myself vomit. I realised that the endorphins released when vomiting had prevented me from really feeling emotions over the previous decade. It was like an addict coming off drugs. Once I started feeling emotions- good emotions, bad emotions- I revelled in feeling them all. My life was good.

Then I happened to see him.

I met up with a group of my old school friends and he was there. I didn’t speak to him, but I just stared at him. I couldn’t stop staring at him. Yet I felt like I wanted to vomit when looking at him. Not nausea exactly, I wanted to purge. I wanted to get it all out. He was still inside me. I wanted him out. I wanted him out. God, I just wanted to destroy him. It wasn’t the best school reunion there has been, but I got through it.

That reunion was over 20 years ago now. I’m happy, successful, have a family, a great husband. I don’t think about being raped that often, but I think about it considerably more than any other experience I had as a teenager. Every time I read a news story about a woman being raped, I think about it. Every time I read a woman’s confessional blog post about being raped, I think about it. Every time I read research or statistics about rape, I think about it. Every time I see a rape portrayed in a film, I think about it. Every time I read the word “rape”, I think about it. Every time I see you on social media talking about rape, something it is very unlikely you will ever experience, I think about it. I don’t think about it all the time, but I have to face it constantly. And I know this is how it will be for the rest of my life.

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I still can’t talk about it. I couldn’t bear to hear the words I’ve just written to you come out of my mouth. That would make it somehow too real. Women who can speak about being raped are stronger than I am. Maybe one day I’ll be able to say the words to someone.

Do you believe my story? Do you think the fact that I was “too drunk to REMEMBER” (your words) means that there’s a good chance I could have made it all up? Misremembered somehow? Fabricated memories? Would you need to hear my rapist’s side of the story, too, in order to make up your mind? It was a long time ago, he probably just has a vague memory of “having sex” with me, but that’s it. He might not remember any details as it was so long ago and he wasn’t the target of bullying about it at school, bullying which burned the memories in day after day after day. And it’s pretty likely he didn’t spend a decade with an eating disorder reliving it day after day after day. Nor is it likely that every news story, film plot, social media pontificating about rape reminds him of it. So, his recollection will be hazy. Would he have to say the words “yes, I raped her”, in order for you to believe me? What exactly would he have to say for you to believe my story over his?

Maybe my story is easy to believe because of some of the post-rape behaviour I exhibited – an eating disorder, for example, is a classic response to sexual trauma. At the time though no one at school suspected a thing. When they called me Lucky 7, they assumed I was a willing partner. They got absolutely no response from me at all. I wasn’t “hysterical” nor frenzied nor anxious nor panicked when another “I am 7” birthday badge appeared on my desk. I was numb. If I had found the strength to say, at the time, “I was raped” would I have been believed by you? Or do you need me to have suffered the decade of mental illness to accept my side of the story?

Maybe it’s easier for you to believe I was raped because I was passed out beforehand. Would it be harder for you to believe me if he’d walked me into the room before I passed out? Would you think I was somehow complicit because I “let him” walk me into the room? Would it be harder for you to believe me if I’d kissed him beforehand? Would you think I was “asking for it” if I’d drunkenly kissed him, then told him I needed to lie down, then he walked me to the room and I passed out? Where is the cut-off for you between Rape and Not Rape?

I was raped. I was raped when I was drunk, passed out. I was raped when I was drunk, passed out, when I was 14 years old. I was raped when I was drunk, passed out, when I was 14 years old and a virgin.

Do you believe me, Richard Dawkins?

The author’s identity has been withheld at her request.

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Update, 16.22: Richard Dawkins has responded via Twitter:

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