One day you realize: Mr. Happy gets older, too By Beth Levine Grandparents.com January 18, 2015
You’d like to think that at least some areas of our bodies will be spared the indignities of aging, but one day you realize: Mr. Happy gets older, too. “You don’t wake up one morning and realize it is different. It’s a gradual process, but starting around age 40, the changes become more noticeable,” says Madeleine Castellanos, author of”Penis Problems: A Man’s Guide.” So what does it mean when a penis looks and acts different?
Atherosclerosis, a common problem of aging, restricts blood flow, affecting heart, brain, and penis. With less blood in the area, the penis appears lighter in color, says Dr. Castellanos, who is also a sex therapist with a private practice in New York. This is nothing to worry about as long as you have regular checkups that show that everything else is in working order. Also, just as skin everywhere shows effects of aging, so does the penis skin. It may appear more mottled.
Touchy subject. The truth is the penis will shrink a little as time goes on as a result of decreased blood flow and testosterone. “By the time a guy is in his 60s and 70s, he may lose a centimeter to a centimeter and a half in length,” explains Dr. Castellanos. She adds, if a guy carries belly weight, the penis will appear smaller without it actually being smaller. “The penis starts inside the body. If you have belly fat, it comes down and extends over the base of the penis. The belly covers the base of the penis, making it appear shorter.”
But here’s the big secret: Most women really don’t care about size. In fact, enormous shlongs can be quite painful. “It’s what he does with it and the rest of his body that matters,” says Lou Paget, a certified AASECT sex educator and author of “The Great Lover Playbook.”
Testosterone helps support nervous tissue. When its levels start to drop, there will be an accompanying decrease in sensitivity, making it more difficult to reach orgasm. Also, the erection won’t be as hard. “This is a case of use it or lose it,” says Dr. Castellanos. She explains that guys can protect their penile health by having erections every day. They don’t have to be point of orgasm, but daily erections keep the arteries in shape and bring blood flow to the area. “It’s just like if you don’t go to the gym, your muscles will get thinner and your arteries will close up. The same thing happens with a penis,” she adds.
Decline in urinary function
Urinary problems—issues with being able to “go,” or with being able to hold back flow—have to do with prostate health. It affects 20% of men in their 40s, 50 to 60 percent of men in their 60s, and 80 to 90 percent of men in their 70s and 80s.
Preventive actions, courtesy of Dr. Castellanos:
Maintain a healthy weight.
Get on your feet. Sitting all day puts a lot of pressure on the prostate.
Do moderate exercise several times a week to maintain the tone of the pelvic floor muscles. Jogging or brisk walking will do the trick. The Mayo Clinic also recommends Kegel exercises for men.
Take zinc and selenium.
Limit alcohol consumption. Alcohol increases the conversion of testosterone to estrogen and increases inflammation in the area.
Ejaculate several times a week to flush out the area.
Erectile dysfunction (ED)
ED develops in 5 percent of men at age 40, and up to 15 percent at age 70. It can be the result of a variety of intertwined causes:
Biology -– illness, medications, poor health habits of the male partner
Psychological -– anxiety, depression, stress in either partner
Relationship -– lack of trust and intimacy, or emotional conflict between the couple
Psychosexual skills -– lovemaking skills of either partner, or the interplay between the two
Because of this complexity, simply popping a pill such as Viagra or Cialis without addressing the underlying cause as a couple will lead to failure, says Dr. Castellanos. “First, go to a physician for a complete checkup to rule out any chronic conditions. If that doesn’t yield any conclusive information, seek the help of a competent sex therapist, who can help you both psychologically and physiologically,” says Castellanos.
And now a word about man-o-pause
There’s been a lot of talk lately about andropause – basically, whether it truly exists or not. In theory, it is a significant response to hypogonadism (when the testicles are no longer producing normal levels of testosterone). With andropause, men can have symptoms similar to women in menopause such as fatigue, depression, night sweats, and low sex drive. Dr. Castellanos explains that very few men have true andropause that needs to be treated with testosterone. Since testosterone naturally declines with age and can be affected by many environmental factors, Castellanos says it’s important to…
Get seven to eight hours of sleep nightly
Limit alcohol to one drink per day
Keep stress levels under control
“All of these factors provide what is necessary for the body to produce optimal amounts of testosterone. The body is constantly responding to its environment and making adjustments accordingly. If the environment is too stressful (no sleep, bad diet, lots of stress), the body compensates by declining the production of testosterone – and vice versa,” explains Castellanos.
Even if you don’t have true andropause, these healthy life changes can’t hurt. Caution: Taking testosterone when it is not really needed impairs the body’s ability to make its own, so testicles and penis will actually shrink.