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Gwyneth does it so it must be OK………

Actually its a well respected treatment that has been widely used in Central and South America for many years……….


Vaginal Steaming: What You Need To Know BY SIERRA BRASHEAR JANUARY 31, 2015 5:30 AM EST

If you’re like many of the women I know, when “that time of the month” rolls around, menstrual cramps are likely to send you seeking the warm refuge of your pillow-top rather than showing up as your best self. Indeed, according to one Italian study, menstrual cramping, also known as dysmenorrhea, affects approximately 84% of women of childbearing age. With all due respect for my beautiful, sacred cycle, I began to grow frustrated, wondering why we must suffer such monthly woes.

Finally, after so many years of hiding in my room when my moon came around, I started to seek out something I could do to support my body to function at its best, making menstruation more pleasant.

In my search for the cure, I discovered an ancient herbal treatment for the uterus that yielded exactly the answer I was looking for. The treatment, known as vaginal steaming, is as old as the hills and is well-respected by traditional healers across the globe, remedying almost any aspect of uterine pathology. Also known as yoni steaming, the treatment is used to cleanse and revitalize the uterus, effectively reducing discomfort associated with menstruation.

I learned about this amazing herbal therapy from Dr. Rosita Arvigo, a naprapathic physician, herbalist, international lecturer, author and teacher of Maya medicine. Having lived and studied with traditional Mayan healers in Belize for nearly 25 years, Rosita became quite familiar with this miraculous remedy for the womb.

Vaginal steaming, Dr. Arvigo says, is as popular in Mayan culture as drinking peppermint tea is in American culture. In Central America, the remedy is called a bajo, and it is very common among women because it works.

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A Video Game Controller That Goes where?


How the SKEA Can Make You Better at Sex – Learn the secrets of the Smart Kegel Exercise Aid By Carrie Weisman AlterNet January 2, 2015

Hey ladies, ever tried to stop peeing, midstream? I”m not asking solely for the purpose of being crude; I ask because by doing so, you’re actually employing your very important pelvic floor muscles. Maybe the term sounds a little foreign to some women, but most have likely heard about Kegel exercises. While these little bathroom tricks can help you perform them, there’s an alternative out there, and it sounds a whole lot more fun. Namely because video games are involved.

Kegel exercises help strengthen pelvic floor muscles in women. While these muscles serve a variety of functions there are two big ones to address. The first being that they can help with urinary incontinence, something many women struggle with after giving birth. The second, and perhaps more exciting bit, revolves around making you better at sex.


With the help of a successful Kickstarter campaign, Tom Chen created a way for women to strengthen these muscles, and one that doesn’t interrupt your bathroom time. The method? Video games. The tool? A specially crafted controller… one that isn’t operated by using your hands.

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How to help the man in your life have the best Orgasm

(Tip you will need  some lube and a willing partner or to go and buy some toys (and lube!))


5 Steps to Achieving an Amazing Prostate-Assisted Orgasm – It can blow you away By Carrie Weisman December 11, 2014

When most of us were taught about sex, we understood one basic principle: sexual satisfaction for men is delivered through their exterior genitalia, while women achieve it internally. But it looks like men were sold short with that explanation, because another powerful pleasure center exists inside the male body. Prostate-assisted orgasms aren’t as widely publicized as the penile version. But there is an enthusiastic community of people who have experienced the wildly intense and lengthy orgasms they can deliver. There is a reason, after all, why the sex toy industry seems to be overflowing with prostate stimulators (“progasms” as they’re sometimes called), massagers and plugs.

For some, this realm remains a largely unexplored, uncomfortable territory. It’s for this group that we bring the five steps to achieving an amazing prostate-assisted orgasm.

1. Prep For It

Anytime butt play is involved, it’s important to take the right precautions. Things have a tendency of getting messy when this region of the body is involved, but an easy routine can help sexual participants avoid embarrassing incidents. For the man looking to achieve a prostate-assisted orgasm, douching is probably a good idea. The process flushes your body of all junk so you don’t have to worry about it coming out during sex. It wouldn’t hurt to follow up with a shower.

The penetrator should also take some polite measures to maximize his or her partner’s experience. The skin around the anus is sensitive, and can tear easily, so trim nails, and clean hands are a must. Couples may want to arm themselves with paper towels, and rubber gloves (for those who aren’t fluid-bonded with their partners).

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5 Surprising Things About Sex That Women May Be Scared to Tell Men


Here’s what women are really thinking By Amanda Marcotte December 9, 2014

Our sexist culture unleashes many forms of toxic socialization on its inhabitants, but few lessons seem to take as well as teaching girls from the cradle to coddle the male ego, not just with flattery but with a deep unwillingness to speak truths that could cause men to feel uncomfortable or imperfect. And nowhere is this less true than in the sack. Many a woman who feels herself a ballsy broad in her daily life finds herself in bed, afraid to say “Please do this” or “Don’t do that” for fear of confronting a man looking shocked, upset, or disappointed—which can push a button installed in us as little girls labeled Failure As A Woman.

We know we should get over it already. We know we should speak up and take our lumps and men who can’t handle it are bad lovers we should be dumping anyway. It’s not like we’re not trying. The female half of the human race spends an ungodly amount of time and money trying to unlearn passivity and replace it with a dose of speaking up for themselves.

In the meantime, however, there’s a number of things women are thinking about sex that tend to go unsaid, but you men should probably know them anyway.


1. We can tell when you’re doing something because you saw it in a porno.

Most sex in porn is about what’s good for the camera, not what’s good for the participants in it, especially the women. In fact, many things that look good in porn can keep us from having fun in real-life sex. For instance, in porn the only parts of their bodies the actors often touch are their genitals, so that the camera can get a full view of the action. But in real life, sex is more of a whole-body experience, and the genital-only thing can feel cold and masturbatory.

Of course, we know that men know this, and most would deny that they’re doing stuff because it looked good in a porn and not because it felt good in the moment. So we’d rather not bring it up when you do stuff that looks better in porn than it feels in life. We don’t want to argue over whether or not that’s what you’re doing. But when you do something you picked up in a porn that doesn’t add to the real-life pleasure, we take notice and we’re often hoping you get it out of your system so we can move on to activities that are actually fun.

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Why No One Can Design a Better Speculum

The gynecological device may have an ethically fraught history, but it’s hard to improve on the design by ROSE EVELETH NOV 17 2014, 6:45 AM ET

Few women enjoy  pelvic exams the crinkly paper dress, the awkward questions, the stirrups, the vague fear that can comes with doctors’s visits of any kind (what if they find something abnormal, something bad, something cancerous?). But perhaps no piece of the pelvic exam is as reviled as the vaginal speculum—the cold, clicking, duck-billed apparatus that lifts and separates the vaginal walls so a near-stranger can peer inside.

The speculum’s history is, like many medical histories, full of dubious ethics. Versions of the speculum have been found in medical texts dating back to the Greek physician Galen in 130 A.D. and shown up in archaeological digs as far back as 79 A.D. amidst the dust of Pompeii. (The artifact from Pompeii is a bit of a nightmare: two blades that open and close via a corkscrew-like mechanism.)

But the speculum most women experience today is largely credited to a man named James Marion Sims, often heralded as the father of American gynecology. He was a controversial figure even in his day, and should probably remain one now.

Sims’s early gynecological experiments were done on slave women who, in many cases, he purchased and kept as property in the back of his private hospital. Along with this violent legacy, Sims left behind a few medical advances and inventions—one of them being the vaginal speculum. While the design has been refined, the speculum women see today isn’t all that different from the one Sims used on his captive patients.

One might expect our modern spirit of innovation and disruption to turn its eye on the speculum. Surely something invented so long ago, under such dubious circumstances, could use an update. And many have tried. In the past 10 years, new designs for the speculum have continuously cropped up, only to fade away again. But while medical manufacturers continue to improve the design in little ways, there has been no real contender to displace the duck-billed model. The speculum’s history is inextricably linked to extreme racism and misogyny. But for all that, it just may be the best design we’re ever likely to have.

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In 1845, Sims opened up a private hospital for women in Montgomery, Alabama. Slave owners in the surrounding areas brought their ailing women to him, and one of the more common problems he saw was something called vesicovaginal fistulas—a condition often caused by prolonged childbirth, in which a hole forms in between the bladder or rectum and the vagina. The tear causes urine and feces to pool in the vagina, creating infections, pain, and incontinence. Fixing it required a doctor to be able to look into the vaginal canal and see the hole.

J. Marion Sims engraved by R. O’Brien 

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Why do female orgasms exist?


The reason may be more complicated than you think – A new study suggests that orgasms help women choose better partners — but it’s a subject that is hotly debated by TRACY CLARK-FLORY WEDNESDAY, NOV 12, 2014

It’s a question that few women would think to ask: Why does the female orgasm exist? More likely is, “Where is my female orgasm?” — or, for the easily orgasmic, “More, please?” But it’s a query that has nonetheless plagued sex researchers for decades, and a new study has proposed an answer: that the female orgasm helps women choose better partners. More specifically — and perhaps unflatteringly to women — researchers found that “how often a woman experienced orgasm as a result of sexual intercourse was related to their partner’s family income.” They also found that “his self-confidence” and “how attractive he was” also factored in.

The orgasmic explanation proposed by the study, which is a “preliminary investigation” and by no means definitive, isn’t new. There has long existed a schism in expert thinking around the raison d’être of lady-gasms. In one camp, you have what I like to call the reproductive successers. In the other, the “byproduct” believers. (I hope I’m not the only one picturing a snapping “West Side Story” scene here. Only with super-raunchy gang signs.) And even the former group breaks down into several warring factions (and none of them attempt to address why lesbians have orgasms — and more of them). Given this latest study, which in recent days has revived debate among sex researchers, I figured I would break down the arguments into a language the Internet understands — that of the listicle, of course.

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The Rise of Sexology

Vibrators, erotica, condoms … Christopher Turner puts on his plastic gloves to examine treasures from the Institute of Sexology, and finds that the pioneers of the study of sex were not just campaigners but political activists and collectors, too by Christopher Turner The Guardian, Friday 7 November 2014 13.30 GMT

Porcelain fruit
Porcelain fruit, hinged, contains copulating male and female. 

Berlin is a bugger’s daydream,” the 21-year-old WH Auden wrote to Christopher Isherwood, with news of the city’s 170 police‑controlled male brothels. By 1929, when his school friend joined him there, the metropolis was the world capital of sexual liberation with a decade-long reputation as “Babylon on the Spree”. In his 1939 novel, Goodbye to Berlin, Isherwood brilliantly captured the Weimar Republic’s decadent atmosphere of sexual experimentation, which was heightened by a sense of looming crisis. The city had been hit particularly hard by the worldwide recession; there was mass unemployment, malnutrition, economic panic and simmering political violence. “One suddenly realised the whole foundations of life were shaking,” Auden concluded.

In Berlin, Isherwood lived in an apartment owned by Magnus Hirschfeld’s Institute for Sexual Science, which occupied the grand mansion of the former French ambassador. The institute was decorated more like a wealthy private residence than a scientific establishment, with Persian carpets, a grand piano and glass cabinets full of porcelain. Free sex advice was dispensed in lectures and private consulting rooms and there were medical clinics for the treatment of venereal diseases and other sexual problems, as well as a library containing the largest collection of literature on sex in the world. There was also a research laboratory where the portly, walrus-moustached Hirschfeld – known as the “Einstein of Sex” – formulated dubious aphrodisiacs and anti-impotence medicines, and supervised the world’s first sex reassignment surgery.

Alfred Kinsey interview
Alfred Kinsey interview. Photograph by William Dellenback. 

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